November 6, 2015
As mothers of and mother figures to LDS LGBT children, we are profoundly saddened and disillusioned by the church’s clarification of their stance on LGBT relationships. We work diligently to make sure every LGBT youth and young adult within our reach feels safe valued and loved. We are painfully aware of those who have chosen to end their lives over rhetoric such as this and many of our own children have fallen into this category.
As we work to educate and support LDS mothers when their beloved children come out to them, we are fearful now that these recent statements by our church will result in even more of these precious souls being rejected by their families, kicked out of their homes, and attempting suicide. These statements do not feel like love to us. The idea that children of LGBT parents will now have to disavow themselves from their parent’s relationship in order to be baptized in our church, is perhaps the most painful part of this difficult news today. It feels positively medieval, unequivocally wrong, and in our estimation stands to push more people out of the church and tear apart families. We will never abandon our children or grandchildren even as the church prepares to officially do so.
We know our Savior loves and accepts our children exactly as he created them and that he desires for them to have love and companionship. We are collectively heartbroken today as our children get the message loud and clear that they are not wanted here; that they are merely collateral damage in some holy moral values war.